We're here for the Heart Centered Communication Seminar.

A little bit about Eileen and myself. We don't have time to go into the comical story of how we met, but I was not a happy camper when she waltzed into my life. I had made a commitment to Spirit: "Whatever you want me to do, I'm open." I didn't realize how UN-open I was when I said that, but I said, "I'm open to explore that which you have for me to do." And she walked in.

She's a woman that I respect and I love. She's my best friend. But I can't always say that I've felt that way every moment of our relationship . If there's one thing you take away from this seminar, it's that when you're feeling in a bad way about your relationship, you're not in your heart. When you're in your heart you cannot have lower vibrational feelings about the other person or yourself.

So today what we're going to present is how to get here in your heart, like I think all the spiritual masters on the planet have been telling us for a long, long time.

I would ask that you check your egos at the door. And what I mean by that is none of us in this room are our bodies or our minds only. We're grander than that, we're bigger than that. Usually, the way we've been raised in this culture, our mind is that which we identify with. But we're much bigger than that. This has been a lesson for me personally in my life. This form here is only a suit of clothing that I've temporarily taken on. So I would ask that we speak with each other through our hearts. And that's what we'll be doing today.

Your minds may be going nuts and telling you, "He's full of crap." or "I can't do that." or "What is he talking about?" And I want you to acknowledge that your mind is saying that, your brain, your ego. But remember, that's only a small piece of who you truly are. And that is why we're all here on the planet – to remember who we truly are in our magnificence.

And then what happens is people come into your life who mirror back all your un-magnificence. And you get to work on it in partnership. It doesn't matter if you're in a partnership or marriage or with a significant other. Your mirror can be anyone. Your children, your parents, your co-workers all mirror back to you your own stuff. Now if you see good stuff, you can go, "Alright, I'm doing the right thing." But if you're in conflict, or you're feeling sad, or you're feeling depressed, know that you're not in your heart when you're feeling that way.

People, every moment of every instant of your life, are teachers. And if you take that kind of humble attitude, that everybody who walks into your life is a teacher, then you're much more open and receptive to what they have to teach you. Which is usually stuff that is out of balance within yourself.

So Eileen walked into my life, and I had made this commitment to Spirit. She was a doing a kind of impromptu seminar with Peruvian whistles which are a chakra opening kind of device, and I recognized her instantly. A few weeks later I was actually up at her house in Washington and I said, "Spirit said I'm supposed to work with you for 30 days." So we ended up doing this 30 days of powerful spiritual work together. And it was like this roller coaster, intense, in terms of the number of experiences that came up, every day was like living two weeks. We were told that it wasn't intense, it was just very rapid.

We all have that ability, it's just how open you are to transforming yourself.

One of the things that Eileen has said in a number of counseling sessions and seminars that we've done since we've been together, and I've stolen it from her because I love it, is that in this incarnation, at this moment, at this time you are the pinnacle of your soul essence. You have access to each and every life time that you've ever lived. All you have to do is to be open to it. And the opening is in your heart.

You know, it's funny, this life on this planet, in a certain way, it's all an illusion. We live it through filters. Most of us see it through our minds instead of our hearts. When you start living it through your heart, your illusion starts to melt away, and you see truth.

That's what Jesus said, Buddha said... It's always here, in your heart. And I've begun to understand and grasp that to a greater degree by living it every day.

If I'm ever in conflict with Eileen or anybody else, I have to quit blaming the other person, bring it back to me, drop from my brain head, go into my heart and ask, "What do I need to do now?" And when I'm open to doing that simple step, it's amazing how the ego loses its power, and all of a sudden this grander self starts to emerge. So that's what we're going to be practicing today.

What we want to do right now is have you guys get into this heart place. The heart is the center of love. When you're in now, you're in your heart. When you're future tripping, you're in your brain. When you're in the past, you're in your brain. ("This person said this, which reminded me of someone from my past who said that, and I'm pissed, and nobody's going to tell me what to do and blah, blah, blah... ") When you're in the past, you're in the brain.

("I wonder if she's going to leave me? Is she going to stay with me? Will she be there? I don't know!" Oh stay tuned for the next pathetic adventure of Soap Opera City.) When you're in the future, you're in the brain.

In this moment, in this Now, be in your heart. That's what we're going to do right now, so that you can get the most out of this time. One of the things that we do when we teach, especially in a crammed situation like this, is to expand time. We'd like to invite you to expand time with us and drop into your heart.

Right now, put both feet flat on the floor, close your eyes, and take a deep, deep breath in, and blow out as if you're blowing everything, as if you're blowing 328 birthday candles, keep blowing until you think you're going to turn blue, keep going until you have to gasp.....

Ahhh. Now put a hand on your heart, and invite your angels and guides in right now, Just invite whomever you work with who is wiser and smarter and more loving than the little you... your Higher Self, Jesus, Krishna, Kwan Yin, White Buffalo Calf Pipe Woman, Ganesh... whomever you want to invite who embodies Love for you... welcome them to help you be in your heart center, and to be expanded and grow in this next bit of time we have to share together. Good friends of Light and Love gathered in this room, we thank you for your presence in us and around us and we welcome you to help us each remember. Thank you for words and wisdom, thank you for hearts to love and grow, and thank you for this time out of time. Aho.

So... we're going to give you some information for the brain, and then we're going to drop into the heart and start doing it, so it's not just postulation and theory. Kai already mentioned to you that partnerships, relationships, are mirrors, and that's any kind of relationship with anybody. We were joking around last night when we were talking about this, and we said that some people seem like fun house mirrors.

Your partner can't satisfy your inner longing for love and happiness. That can only come from your relationship with Spirit. What's really funny is that there are so many people out there looking for their ideal soul mate but they aren't willing to embody the very traits they are looking for in another. Or they're pissed off because this person or that person isn't meeting their needs.... and it's nobody else's job to do that. Once you get that, that it's no one else's job to meet your needs, then all the power tripping, and all the manipulations and all the dysfunctional behaviour that you've used to get your needs met, drops away.

If you're not happy, it's not because that other person isn't making you happy. It's because YOU're not happy. And if you get that, it will change your life. Nobody else makes you not happy. You do, when you're not in Now and you're not in Love. When you're not happy, you're in your head, you're in your ego, and you're not here now.

What we're sharing is stuff to get you from your ego into your heart. What serves us in any situation and what always brings us back to center is to understand this other person isn't "causing" your discomfort, and the person that this person is reminding you of isn't causing it. YOU're causing it.

If you look at our relationship on a lot of surface levels, there's no way in heck that you'd ever put us two together. I mean, on an ego basis, we eat different foods, we come from different backgrounds... you talk about polar opposites... If we identify with our egos... if I thought that's who I was to this day... we would never be here together. We are here together because we each have committed ourselves to Spirit, and that's the level that you meet on. To use a computer analogy, Spirit is the big folder above this little personality file. It's who we truly, truly are, and who we've come to express. So when I get out of sorts, it's because I'm in my ego, who my brain thinks I am. Or she is in her ego, or we're in simultaneously, and it just doesn't work there. We have instant feedback when we're in our ego, because it doesn't work on a lot of levels. But when we're in our spirits, when we're in our hearts, things flow. All the extraneous stuff doesn't matter anymore because there's another level we are being asked to live on, and that's the level of Spirit.

You're not your body, you're not your mind, you're not your personality. That is a key point we want you to understand. So if you're having conflict, stop yourself, and take the responsibility to say, "It's not my partner. Or it's not so-and-so. It's not George Bush. It's not Saddam Hussein." Whatever level you're having this conflict, it's about you. Come back here (to your Heart), to yourself. Connect with Whoever you are in sync with on the spiritual level, your divine help. Then you'll be in your heart, and then you'll have a new view of how to proceed next.

(drawing of two broken halves of a circle: ) This illustration is how many people think of soulmates. "I'm weak in this area and you're strong in this area, so we fit together." Add a full moon, and two lonely, horny people come together: "You breathe air? Wow! That's so cool! I breathe air, too. Do you sleep at night? I sleep at night, too! Oh, we must be meant to be together!" That's what I call wound mates.

You won't find fulfillment being broken. Two broken people cannot make a healthy, whole relationship. Those people who have been looking for the ideal relationship: If you want the ideal relationship, it's not outside of you, it's in here (heart.) You work on yourself. You get yourself whole. Because whatever level you vibrate at, that's what you bring in. So if you vibrate at trauma drama, you're going to attract trauma drama. And if you like to play superhero to the rescue, you're going to attract somebody who wants to be rescued.

(drawing of two interlocking circles, the vesica pisces:) If you identify with wholeness, you're going to attract wholeness. OK?

You see your soul mate isn't that perfect person out there that you're just totally in sync with all the time. In my personal experience and in the counseling that I've done for years, soul mates are the ones who push your buttons. They're the ones that came to the planet to get you to evolve. So in a lot of ways, they mirror back to you those parts of yourself that are out of harmony. If you project that disharmony back onto them and think it's their fault and then you try to fix the other person, it doesn't fix you. That's just a way of alienating yourself from your own disharmony.

The whole thing is that down here on the old earth plane, it's a school. OK? Some of us are in kindergarten. Some of us are in graduate school. We're all together. But if you're acting like a 7-year-old, that's what you're going to attract to you.

If you want spiritual evolvement, you identify with your spiritual self. And I tell you what, all the baloney will fall away, the longer that you allow that process to flow. So eventually, you'll be enlightened. You'll be like Jesus, Buddha, whomever. That's all in the cards for every one of us. It's going to happen to everybody in this room. You just have to decide whether or not you want that to happen now. Alright? You can have it happen in this lifetime or in a future lifetime.

And if Earth life is a school, you can be on the playground.

So what is Heart-Centered Communication? Here's my definition: Revealing yourself. Cutting the crap, being real, and revealing yourself.

What we're going to do today is practice that. And we're going to practice it with strangers.

workshop participant: Uh-oh.

Uh-oh. It's actually easier.

workshop participant: It's scary.

el: Whose the most scary person in this room? Stand up. Identify yourself.

A man: It's me

el to woman: OK . So don't partner with him, because he's the scariest person in the room. (laughter)

It's revealing your core self. That's what communication is. But it's not just words. If any of you have ever been caught up in mercury retrograde or communicating with someone from a different culture or who speaks a different language than you, you know it's not just words.

We're going to do an exercise to help you reveal yourself, and also to help you listen.

When we communicate, what do we communicate with?

mouth

words.

eyes.

body language.

Good. So heart-centered communication is revealing your heart to someone AND using your eyes, your ears, your six senses, to comprehend what another is communicating, not just listening to their words.

Those of you who work with people, who are healers or therapists or who work with the public in any way, you know that peoples' words and body language often do not agree. There is much more to communication than just words.

Right now what we'd like you to do is sit with someone you don't know.

Maybe somebody that you'll never see again. Go and find a person you may never see again in this life. That's the safety factor.

Come on. Be brave. Be strong.

If you need a partner, raise your hand.

Opening your heart center is a choice. It involves inclusion. Fear excludes. Love includes. When we see someone who is different from us, often times our initial, conditioned reaction is what? To shrink. To withdraw. To.exclude. "You're not like me." That's fear.

Heart-centered communication is making a space that says, "Welcome. I include you. You're safe with me."

You're going to be witnessing yourself as you do this exercise. Kai will talk to you a little about that process.

I want to say something to those who are still in their heads. There is research now that there is another center of consciousness that is centered in our hearts. It's different than up here in our brains, but there are neurological synapses and firings and biological activity that goes on in the heart when you are aware of it, when you work it. It's like a muscle. If you choose to be here, in your heart, this is actually the engine on your train. By default, we as a human species have fallen into the default setting wherein our minds and egos have become like the caboose pushing the train. This is a very inefficient way of living life. If you connect with your heart center, your brain follows, and it follows right along. Now it maybe a little ornery and obstinate about it, but it knows it's the caboose. Or to use another analogy, it's just the tail on the dog. It is not the dog. When we operate only from our brains, we're like the tail wagging the entire dog

So know that this, your heart, is biologically and energetically, a very powerful center. It is the portal to our higher self, to our spiritual self, to the grander All That Is. It's our way "out" of the earth plane, out of the 3D existence. It's the only way. If you try to do it through your mind, your mind cannot squeeze through that portal. There is a sacred geometric dance that has to happen for you to go through this portal. You don't have to know the dance. You already remember it when you're in your heart. You have that information already in your cells, in your DNA. It's locked into you.

When you're doing this exercise, we want you to be like the proverbial fly on the wall. You're going to be in two places at once in a certain kind of way with this exercise. We want you to watch yourself respond to the other person AND to be aware of your own internal stuff that's going on. Just very objectively watch yourself go through the process. Because what happens when you're that watcher, that witness is actually your higher self. It's actually the bigger part of you. When you are aware that you can be in two places at once, it becomes kind of natural, because it's the way you used to be. OK?

As you're doing this exercise, if you start touching on issues that are your trigger issues, STOP, and from this witness point of view say, "Huh. I got triggered there. I wonder what that's about?" Just be that proverbial fly on the wall. Notice how your mind and ego begin to increase the emotional drama. But do not feed the drama. Just stay objective and notice. It will soon pass. Try this also at home. When you're with your significant other or a family member and you come into conflict, watch yourself. Don't get energetically sucked into the argument. If you watch yourself from this 3rd person perspective, it's amazing what happens. There will be a shift in how you relate to each other.

Sometimes your body goes through these motions (and emotions) out of habit. And we won't get into why that happens, but it does. It's like we're stuck in the same old ruts and we go down the same old road unless we consciously stop the process and choose to get out of the rut. So again, be this fly on the wall and watch yourself do this exercise, while at the same time you're going to consciously choose to be in your heart. For many of us this will be a new experience.

So you go into your heart. You're in the present and you're being present, and you're listening. You have no agenda, you're just there being love, listening. One of the first things that may happen for some of you is that your ego will pop up, and you'll want to PROVE that you're the best damn listener and that nobody else in this room can listen or open their heart as good as you can. And immediately, you've lost it. That's OK. Just be that watcher. Laugh at yourself. Notice, "Oh, that's one of the games my ego plays." And then go right back into your heart. Be there for this other person. And if you watch, you may be amazed at how your ego tries to drag you out of your heart.

Now when you're speaking, (remember, we're all going to play both roles, listener and speaker) when you're speaking, speak as a light being having a human experience. Remember, communication is about revealing, so truly reveal your heart, your real self. You may be telling this person something that nobody else knows about you. Dig deep. This isn't about statistics, or facts. No. This is real stuff. Reveal your real self.

Face each other now. And notice your body language. The first thing a lot of us want to do is protect ourselves. So uncross everything. Get close to the other person. You have permission to touch knees if you're comfortable with that. Now close your eyes and take a deep breath to get yourself centered, in your chair and in your heart.

Take a deep breath, let go of your stuff... any fears, any expectations, any thoughts, and gently bring your consciousness to your heart center. Go down to that center of your being. It may be helpful to physically bring your hand to your chest to bring your awareness to that heart region. This is like catching a butterfly. You don't go aggressively after this, it's a subtle shift. Breathe through your heart. Don't worry about how. Your heart knows how. It's literally like prana or chi or psychic energy that will move in and out of your heart as you breathe in and out. And as you do that, sense your heart beginning to smile. Like a Mona Lisa smile at first, a tiny grin, a mischievous grin, maybe. As you breathe more energy into that smile, feel your heart starting to broaden, starting to open up, starting to have a huge smile, that inner smile that's deep within you. Now, remember some time in your life when you were totally ecstatic. Some moment in your life when things were just absolutely perfect, and bring the energy of that memory into your heart now. Feel your heart swell with joy and happiness.

You have activated your heart and it is the center of your consciousness and form, right now.

Now open your eyes, and look at your partner. Look into their eyes now. Look into their heart and communicate, heart to heart, that inner smile, that joy, that opening heart.

If you catch your ego feeling uncomfortable, just gently drop back into your heart. The ego-mind may want to fight you. This is not its normal way of communicating with another person. Whatever sensations you are experiencing, just take that as information, let the sensations pass. Be that watcher. Watch yourself in this process. Feel yourself in this process.

Let yourself melt as the heart energy permeates your entire being, and you express that to the person sitting in front of you, whoever that person is. Remember that person is a soul with Divinity, just as you are. Look at each other through God's eyes, which is through your heart. If your mind gets in the way, just gently come back to your heart. Heart to heart. Eyes to eyes. Soul to Soul. The eyes are the gateway to your soul, to your spirit. Watch yourself doing this. See where you trip yourself up. See where you really go with the flow.

It's no accident that you're sitting in front of the person that you are. This person is your teacher, and you are their teacher.

Now decide who wants to go first and share that part of you that you normally don't share with anybody else. Do it in a heartful way. Share something about yourself that you normally don't share with others. And just take a few minutes to talk about that. You can each talk, and each listen. Just do it from your hearts.

(The participants now take time to communicate heart to heart)

If you haven't both had a turn, then it's time to let the other person speak.

Ok, now let's draw to a conclusion.

If you feel comfortable, hold hands.

Silently look into each other's eyes.

We're not done yet.

This time as you look into each other's eyes, connected heart to heart, take the next 30 seconds to say, non-verbally, how you feel about the other person. Stay in your heart.

OK

To yourself, reflect on this experience that you just had with this other person, this total stranger, and look how quickly you learned some significant things about the other person by being in your heart.

Understand that as you did this exercise, you manifested exactly the right person to help you. We're here to learn and grow and blossom. And we're here to help each other do that.

But no guts, no glory. Part of this exercise is learning how to speak, and learning how to speak from your heart.

What happens in a lot of relationships is that people do not speak from their hearts. For example: day 1 of the relationship:
Let's say he makes her a meal. And it's something she loathes. Rather than speaking the truth, because remember it's not "nice" to tell the truth because you might "hurt" somebody, rather than speaking the truth, she chokes it down and she says to him, "What a lovely dinner." (or vice versa, you can reverse the roles. It's just an example.)

So what happens then? Person A gets the idea that Person B really likes this food. So they find other opportunities to cook it. Persona B doesn't want to "hurt" Person A's feelings, so they keep choking it down. Now... suddenly... 3 years down the road, Person B explodes: "I hate this! I've always hated this!" And poor Person A is in shock.
"Whoa. What just happened?"

Please understand that hiding is not Love. It is not kind to hide who you are.

Now, there's a difference between saying, "I can't believe you cooked this! I hate this stuff!" And "You know, it was so sweet of you to cook this meal. I really appreciate the love and effort you put into it. And I don't know how to talk about this, but... cosmic joke time... this is one food that I just don't like. Do you want to go out for dinner?"

You've all been there. You've all seen situations like the classic couple fighting over burnt toast. It is not about burnt toast. It's about all the stuff that builds up and isn't dealt with.

When you take anger and resentment and you shove it into you, it doesn't go away.

Take your anger and resentment, and don't look for someone to dump it onto (the dog, the kids, your spouse, whomever). Take your anger and resentment, take responsibility for it and Look at it. Ask, "What is this telling me about me?" Because it is about YOU.

Anger is another face of fear. Ask yourself, "What am I afraid of?" And dig beneath the surface.

So in that earlier scenario, what Person B may have been afraid of is that they would have to eat food they don't like for the rest of their lives. But the deeper fear may be that they don't know how to clearly communicate their wants to their partner.

The thing to remember, is that your conflicts aren't so much about the other person as they are about you. These little conflicts expose our own areas of imbalance so that we can heal them.

Q. Isn't anger sadness?

A. Anger is: I'm feeling uncomfortable and I don't want to deal with it so here, you deal with it.

Sadness is uncomfortableness turned inward and held onto, but still unexamined and not dealt with.

Anger tries to make someone else carry our feelings. With sadness, we cling to the feelings, but we still try to place the origin or cause of the feelings outside of ourselves.

Both of them are fear, not dealt with. And fear is in the past or in the future. Not now. Fear is not now. Remember that. Love is now.

Pick a fear. Somebody give me a fear.

Heights.

Heights. so... "I'm afraid. I'm on this rooftop. Ohmygawd. I'm going to hyperventilate. What if I fall?!" Why is this person afraid? Because in this life or some other they probably fell off of something. Is that now? No. You see we get to choose between fear or love. We get to choose between the past and future or Now. When we're in now, we're in the present. We still have situations, but when stuff comes up, we can deal with it, because we're there, you see? We're present.

One of the tools that can help us with that is just to ask the question, "Right now, am I OK? Right now." And right now you are OK, almost always.

So when you're in fear, you're future tripping or you're in the past.

The brain is a computer. It takes in FILTERED information, it extrapolates this information based on past data and it projects a future scenario. And it makes its future projections based on how you've programmed it, based on what information you put in. A lot of people get their programming from television for crying out loud. Well you're programming that in and then fear comes out. Duh! Garbage in, garbage out.

Fill your brain with good pictures, fill you mind with good words, program in what you would like to experience. Fill your brain with sights and sounds and smells and experiences that manifest "God" to you.

Again, are you identifying with God and your spiritual self or are you identifying with your ego? Remember, the center of your consciousness doesn't have to be the brain or the ego. That's how you've been conditioned in this life. But you can consciously choose to be in your heart center. That's a choice that you have from this moment forward. You've always had it, but maybe you weren't consciously aware of that choice until now.

When you choose your heart center, you're choosing your divinity. When you're in conflict with your partner or anyone, one of things you can do is look behind them or above them or into them and see their spiritual self, their soul. It's there. And yours is there, too.

Your divinity is just outside of the vibration that our eyes usually see. But when you begin to sense and feel and know and speak to the divinity of the people that you're interacting with, you'll begin to see this more and more. It's the big paradox. What happens is that when you begin to see the Divine in others, you begin to see the Divine in yourself.

If you're in conflict with someone, just stop. Soften. And then ask, "What's really going on, and what do you need from me right now?"

Ahhhhh

How do you get mad at that?

That's really what the lesson is. Whenever you're arguing, you're in your head. You can't argue when you're in your heart.

When you're in an argument, you're trying to win an ego battle.

Again, what are you identifiying with? Who are you going to be in this moment?

And if you're in this moment, as Eileen said, you'll be here in your heart.

Your brain is a magnificent tool. We're not telling you never to use your mind. It's meant to help you with this 3D world. But always, check with your heart first.

Your heart gives you the direction, and then your brain can come up with steps A, B, C, D.

One other thing:
I want to talk you right now about compromise. This comes up a lot with couples. Compromise. About values. About issues. About schedules. And there's a hidden little barb in that... "If you really love me, you'll compromise." In my experience as a therapist and as a human being, compromise doesn't really work.

Here's why: compromise is someone saying "OK, I'll give you this," and then their little devil comes out and thinks, 'but you're going to OWE me, sucker.'

And that turns into another ego battle, "Well! I went and saw YOUR parents..."

Don't "compromise." Love. Give. If you're going to do something, do it from your heart. And if you can't do it from your heart, don't do it.

How many of you people here would love to have your best friend and lover come along with you feeling pissed off, grumpy and resentful and doing something they hate doing? Wouldn't that just be fun?
But they're doing it for you....

You see, that's why compromise doesn't work, in my opinion.

But when both people are heart-directed, there's no need to compromise.

Let's say there are two events happening on the same night and this person wants to go to one, and that person wants to go to the other, and each of them would like the other to come along with them. There's no need to compromise. All you have to do is get quiet and check with your heart and you'll know exactly what to do. Because if you have that relationship: Spirit first, your self second and then from that place of wholeness and balance, your relationship with each other, everything will flow. All those little details get worked out.

It's amazing you know, sometimes people use their partners as excuses. People will say, "I want to walk a spiritual path, BUT... my husband, my boyfriend, my girlfriend, my wife...." whatever.

Well who's your God?

Spirit first. Yourself second, and everything else works.

Another person first? You're screwed.

Yourself first? You already know you're not perfect.

If you make another person your God, or you make your relationship your God, or you make your ego your God, you're screwed.

Spirit first, yourself second, your relationship 3rd, and everything else after that. Then it comes from the heart. Then it comes from Love.

And it's clean. There's no resentment. There's no "owsies," no emotional indebtedness. There's no manipulations or martyrdom or any of that crap you used to use to try to get someone else to meet your needs.

In our hearts, in Now, Spirit created this opportunity today so that we can be together. You've all experienced heart-centered communication with a complete stranger. You created a safe space and you truly listened. You dropped your roles and you revealed yourselves. There are people in your lives who aren't complete strangers. You can use these same techniques when you communicate with them. Remember, it's always about us and our choices. How other people react is really none of our business. But we can choose to be in our hearts and to relate with others and express ourselves from our hearts.

We're going to have you drop into your heart center again, on an individual basis. Then you'll be asking your heart some significant question that's been rolling around in your mind, and ask your heart for insight with that particular issue.

When people do this, answers come from your heart in different ways for different people. It may be words or visual imagery or a feeling or a sensation or a sound or an impression... Just let whatever comes, come. Almost everybody will get some kind of answer within a minute or so. But know that if you don't get something right away, it just needs to percolate for a while. And you may get an answer in an hour, or maybe tomorrow or tonight in dreamtime.

Again, this is a process of getting you into your heart center. And you can do this particular exercise that we're going to do almost anywhere, anytime, except maybe when you're driving. If you're on the telephone with somebody and you're in conflict, you can change the situation by asking yourself a question, dropping into your heart center and getting a response. With practice, it becomes second nature. It's like you're changing the default setting from your head to your heart, and your heart becomes the main operating system.

This is something we want you to practice here because you can use it everyday of your life from this point forward. Close your eyes. Uncross your limbs. Have your feet firmly on the ground. Again, take that deep breath in. Exhale any thought or feelings and just be present. As you take more deep breaths, just bring your consciousness into your heart center. If you want help with this, put your hand on your heart. This is not a struggle process. It's a natural settling in that will just take place as you give attention to your heart center.

Now as you breathe, begin breathing in and out of your heart region. As you breathe energy in and out, your heart has that Mona Lisa smile that begins to get larger and larger. Feel your heart expanding. It literally is expanding within your energetic field as you do this. Feel it expanding. Keep breathing through your heart. Bring that joyful feeling, bring the energy of that to your heart now. Feel your heart expand, and know that you're fully in your heart now.

And at this time, ask a question of your heart, be open to whatever the response may be.

When you've gotten your response, go ahead and open your eyes and just maintain silence. Let the others come back to the present moment in their own way.

Open your eyes. Come back. Bring your awareness into this moment, this space. And also be aware of that watcher behind you. Be aware that there's a bigger part of you, observing.

Good.

Before you go, I want to leave you with a thought:

Whether you are on a fault-finding mission, or a treasure hunt, you will be successful.

Remember that with every being you have contact with.

Thank you for sharing this time with us. Thank you for opening your hearts.

And please know that as you do that, you not only bless your life, but you bless the lives of everyone you come in contact with. So thank you for helping to change the world.